Planning

Sweetie, when you grow up are you going to get married?

No. I don’t think so.

Why not? You don’t want to get married to a nice girl and maybe have your own kids?

No, there’s not anybody I can get married to.

So you want to live with Mommy forever?

Yes! Live with Mommy forever!

You will probably change your mind about that when you get older. What do you mean there is nobody you can marry?

Well I can’t marry Moe because she doesn’t ever wear a skirt or a dress so she can’t get married cause you have to wear a dress.

Well, you can’t marry Moe because she’s your sister….

…(as if I hadn’t spoken) and I can’t marry Poo because I don’t want to…

… and she’s also your sister…

… and I cant marry Daddy because he’s too old.

Well okay then, honey… (bemused)

Today's Moment of Zen

I don't usually add anything to Moments of Zen, as the idea behind them is that the picture speaks for itself and is interpreted differently by different people. However, this particular one came in an email from my cousin and the text is one of those cute things that is a bit cheesy but touching nonetheless. I try to live this way and OFTEN need to be reminded of it.

Every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Life is short. Break the rules; Forgive quickly; Kiss slowly; Love truly; Laugh uncontrollably... And never regret anything that made you smile.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we should dance.

From the Mouths of Babes

Poo: Daddy, I know the answer to the question!

Daddy: You do?

Poo: Yes!

Daddy: You know the answer to THE question?

Poo: Yes!

Daddy: The Ultimate Question?

Poo: Yes, Daddy!

Daddy: The meaning of life, the universe and everything?

Poo: YES!

Daddy: Well what is it?

Poo: Love!

Daddy: Well, I guess you do...

Just Asking

Would it matter if I said I miss you so much it’s like having a constant stomachache?

Do you want to hear me say that being without you means I am less than complete?

If I told you I would do anything for the feel of your arms around me, would you do it?

Would telling you that the sound of your voice in my ear makes me the happiest I’ve ever been make a difference?

If I tell you that the scraps you throw me are not enough but better than anything else on earth, would you give me more?

Do you want me to tell you that the smell of you, your eyes, your hair, and the feel of your skin are as close to heaven as I’ll get on earth?

Do you want to hear that you are the closest to happiness I’ll get in this life?

If I extend the invitation, will you accept it?

I didn’t think so.

Cuz you got to have friends

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. -Mark Twain

Good company and good discourse are the very sinews of virtue. -Izaak Walton

Tell me what company you keep and I'll tell you what you are. -Miguel de Cervantes

You are judged by the company you keep. -Old Saw

Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go. -Oscar Wilde


As I get older I don't have time to be friends with people simply because of how they dress or what kind of music they listen to, or what they can do for me. Oh, don't get me wrong - the career I have chosen means that I spend a lot of time pretending people I care nothing about are interesting for the simple reason that they have or may in the future give me money to do what I do. And I accept this process as the way that the world works. However, simply put, those people are not my friends.

I think the number one priority for me is the ability to laugh. All my friends make me laugh. Sometimes they even mean to. There are few things as valuable to me as a good belly laugh.. you know, the kind that makes you throw your head back and do not care how loud you're being. I love that. If I could bottle it, I would stop drinking forever. I love to laugh so hard I can't catch my breath and tears come to my eyes. There has been a period in the not-too-distant past that those kinds of laughs were absent, and I find that so sad. Happily, they've come back on a somewhat regular basis, and mean to ensure that they don't disappear again.

It has occurred to me today that I am truly lucky and blessed by the friends that I have. They are wonderful people and love me for me, not just what I might be able to do for them.
Maybe it's a sign of my own personal (slow) maturation, but even the flaws in people I love have become virtues. Everyone has their own special gifts that often are not tattooed on their forehead but make them special after you discover it.

This one: some might say she's nosy and makes mountains out of molehills, but she can read my mood and understand me from an expression on my face.

That one: some might say that he's a big baby, but that sensitivity is so welcome when my world is falling apart and he knows what to say or do to console me.

Him: has an infuriating way of not talking, but OMG is he the best listener in the world. Plus he always laughs at *my* jokes. Some say he's smug but I think he's spectacularly intelligent.

Next friend: some call her bitchy and confrontational but I see her as fearless and principled and she would fight to the death for me and those she loves.

This fella: yes, he dresses like a dork and he's a good hunnerd pounds overweight but he has the most charming sense of humor and always helps me see the other side of the equation.

She: never takes anything seriously but she helps me see the lighter side when I'm in my moods and she doesn't realize it but she's teaching me how to handle things more rationally.

The other guy: some say he's bordering on scheming but I don't necessarily think telling people things that make them feel good is a bad thing.

This girl: is guilty of long silences but also teaches me to stop and think first.

Yes, I have (one or two) more friends than that, but I think I've made my point. Though a little rain must fall into each and every life, we do have special people to grab our hand and see us through the storm. I love my friends dearly and I am glad that each and every one of them is in my life.

In Pursuit of Happyness

Maybe we are supposed to meet the wrong person before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has opened for us.

Maybe the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

Maybe it is true that we don't know what we have got until we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we have been missing until it arrives.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart; but if it does not, be content it grew in yours.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone that makes you smile because it takes a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real.

Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be; because you only have one life to live and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trial to make you strong, enough sorrow to make you human, enough hope to make you happy.

Always put yourself in others shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person too.

The happiness of other people doesn't necessarily mean they have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.